'And They Seemed Such A lovely Couple'.

How many times have we all heard that statement made when a relationship breaks up. You get a couple who, on the surface, have everything going for them and one day it all comes to a sudden and nasty end because of circumstances that were not even apparent to their closest friends. There can be many reasons for this pf course, but a very common one is that one or other of the parties involved has decided that it is necessary to maintain a front to the world on order not to upset family, or brcause they feel the need to keep up a respectable reputation in society. Some people are so good at doing this that its not until they are dead or dying that things come to light about how they always detested or despised their other half.

iven that we live in much more liberal times it is perhaps surprising that people still feel the need to live in such a way but we all knopw that many do. Its ubdeerstandable where there are children involved but you often wonder how fooled that children really are. Behind closed doors the masks have a tendancy to slip even with the best actors and actresses involved. And doesnt deciet as a way of life begin to take over other aspects of your existence ?. Pretending to live the perfect life when in reality you are living a lie can be an extremely destructive business for both the person living the lie and to those who are being lied to.

When the lie becomes too big and complex and holds back people achieving happiness and their full potential you have to decide that perhaps honesty is the less damaging option. Perhaps then, its time to approach the other party involved and spell out clearly why the lie can no longer be sustained.